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To 2026🥂

You see, I usually laugh to myself when I hear people talk about new year resolutions. It sounds somewhat unserious to me and I’d like us to understand something… so long as nothing extraordinary or supernatural happens to mark a new year, then it’s just another new day we celebrate based on our calculations (the calendar) and if indeed you really need to act upon a new resolution, you really don’t have to wait till “a new year”. But in as much as not everyone would agree with this, I’d like to put you through on how to go about your new year resolution(s): First, IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE BIG: when most people are setting their new year resolutions, they often tend to ignore small goals and aim for way bigger ones, unknowing to them that small wins lead to even bigger ones. When you choose to overlook the small goals, which in some cases, may be stepping stones to achieve your bigger goals, you tend to not achieve the goals you set which would leave you wondering how and why. That is why...
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2025 wrapped

I have never had a worse, excruciating, more bitter phase than I’ve had in the last two months. While my days were for thinking in and out of the box for ways I could keep myself in motion, the nights were for silent cries when that realization of futility hits me and also the pain that came with admitting the fact that I was stuck in a cycle I had, or have, rather, the power to change but hadn’t found the strength yet, made me resort to things I never imagined myself to do. Good thing I gathered the courage to open up to the people I felt could put me through life, and thankfully, my guts were not wrong.  “Count your blessings and name them one after the other”, was the response I received from all three of them and then suddenly, I discovered that indeed, God was really there for me all through the year. “2025 is my year” l  I had a crazy character development, to an extent at least  l  I got a job that also aided my development  l  I made 2 new friends I...
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FAITH OR LIFE

  Sometime ago, I think published an article on religious bondage and I felt fulfilled speaking out on such controversial topic because it really used to piss me off… but up until some days ago, where a woman was trendy due to the fact that she happens to be under the shackles of her belief and her fellow believers. (Story time) Apparently, she had been sick a while ago, and rather than using a medical method to treat herself, she opted for a “traditional” means. This traditional means made her health get worse to the extent of having a very huge sore on her breast. She then decided to come online (on X, formerly twitter) to ask for assistance (medical and maybe financial). Being a person a lot of X users knew, due to the fact she was a real and legit hustler, about 30 million naira was raised for her health issues within 3 days… everyone really wanted her to get out of the sick bed and continue being AUNTY ESTHER.  First of all, protocols had to be observed and a form of cons...
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When Peace Becomes A Privilege

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I still cannot wrap my head around the fact that we still have the whole of year 2026 and part of 2027 to continue living this way.  While prepping  this piece, I remembered a  song  that was on the lips of almost every Nigerian barely six months into this present government  (video attached beneath). I couldn't help but ask myself, were we really complaining about Mr. B AT  then, if only the future us had seen today, if only our 2023 selves  got a  peep into today to see that the order of the day has become kidnapping and terrorism and it is spreading like a virus at this point. These terrorists are not the regular terrorists, they are the content creator type of terrorists who update the country on their trips and yet we have the military doing nothing but standing by the same dangerous roadsides to collect common 200 Naira from struggling Nigerians who are trying to earn a living from transportation … Stay with me. Can we even talk about th is ...
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Hey Dad,

I think I will ask God "why" for the rest of my life. And never will I come to understand it Even if God himself came in front of me to tell me the reason, I don't think I will accept it Some loves are too hard to bear And with great loves come great pain, And with great loss, Comes the greatest pain of all If love could have saved you...  You would've lived for ever I love you and will always miss you. And in my next life and after, I would always want you to be my dad Courtesy: Ify your girl🎀
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Beyond the surface

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  Only if Apostle Femi Lazarus had used another case study, he would have passed his message on peace without misconceptions and misunderstandings from viewers and listeners. Terming the mood swings that come with periods as being demonic is something really demonic itself. Let me make this clearer… (this is a going to be a personal post and I’d love to see personal comments in the comment section as well). Till I turned 19, I never fully understood what period cramps meant or what they really felt like; and growing up with mostly females around me, I used to be the ONLY joyous person when I was on my period… everyone else would always wriggle in pain, in tears and most times could not even function, including my younger sister who has no access to the internet or social media, so are we to call her demonic for being overstimulated due to the pain that comes with period??? Personally, I feel one should not have a say pertaining anything at all if you do not have the experience. Onc...
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FARMER’S BRIDE

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I was so engrossed in my own world that I cared less about life. I didn’t realize this till I threw a very silly question at my roommate, “Is child marriage really practiced in Nigeria?” Not until after I threw that question did it dawn on me that I had withdrawn almost totally from the society.  There was also a movie released some time ago which narrated child marriage and I love that it didn’t only portray the traditional part of it but also the psychological effect this could have on the child, THE FARMER’S BRIDE.  Of recent too, there were videos of old cargos surfacing online, crying in so much anguish over the ban of child marriage and I couldn’t help but say in my defense that the society, put together, could legit make one go psycho. I don’t know… but in my opinion,  child marriage is not only pedophilia, but also rape (I do not stand to be corrected). I don’t care how anyone is going to paint this but even if one is to say these girls consent to sex with these o...
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