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A LUXURIOUS JUSTICE???

  “While I was a student, it was more than a struggle for my parents. We were feeding from hand to mouth, literally, but we didn’t even have a choice to stop my schooling because they were more than bent on seeing me successful, and I on the other hand, was bent on making my uneducated parents proud. Honestly, we were getting used to the suffering. We kept on adapting and adapting till… well, my parents didnt know how I was going to adapt after bandits raided my school and kidnapped 64 of us, including our teachers and principal.   The news spread faster than wildfire and almost everyone in our not so little village knew about it. Of course, they did feel bad for the families of the victims, only for the next minute to be used to gaslight other villagers… not to leave their homes in search of us, or take the laws i to their hands, or even to go spiritual like we heard some communities do, but just to sit in bed and feel bad for the captives in the forest with bandits.  Ho...
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19 years in 9 minutes

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- [ ] Looking at the past 19 years that I’ve been here on earth, I can say nothing but thank you to God and my lovely parents for the life they gave me… I couldn’t ask for anything better - [ ] Looking at the past 18 years, I’m grateful for the sort of education I was given. It molded me to who I am and who I’m growing to become - [ ] And 17 years ago till now? It’s been a really nice one for me. Having to be a child everyone wanted the best from… school, family church e.t.c. I couldn’t ask for a better immediate environment - [ ] 16 years ago happens to be a year I have no memory about but I doubt it was a year lesser than the rest - [ ] 15 years ago was when my writing journey started, unknown to me. It was the first time I wrote anything meaningful with my pencil (It was my full name) - [ ] And if I’m to look back at 14 years ago, I was giving meaning to life already. Wanting to grow to become a barrister, “standard living” had to be my best song as at the time (the desire for a com...
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Gender, Gender, Gender

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  “Once they stood with broken hearts, ‘women of war, of sickness, of scars, women who stayed when the night turned cold,  who bore their cross with a quiet brave soul. They were the single mothers made by fate, not by haste, nor by self-fed hate.   But now… omo, how the world has evolved, where love is rushed, and marriages are crushed.  Where wombs are bargained to trap a man, and marriage vows are made with a lustful mind. You rush in and rush out and call it, ‘lonely pride’, yet hide the tears they cry inside.   So many now wear motherhood not as a badge of trials withstood , but as a shield from their own past, a tale rewritten much too fast.  They flee from patience, from growing pain, from mending hearts through storms and rain.   Some flirted with men who meant no vow, yet bore their child, and wonder how the world should cheer and lift their name,  while shirking guilt and shifting blame.  “Independent, strong woman” they loudly cry,...
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STRONG ENOUGH, BUT AT WHAT COST?

  I want you to take a moment and think of that one person you know that has it figured out. That person you can always go to for whatever help it is that you need, that person you notice/see everyone go to for advice, help and assistance, that one person you know that is always giving (most times not given), … or in better words, that one strong person you know.   These people we call strong, are most times, simply pressured. When they realize that the expectations of everyone around them is to be a standby guide and guard to them, that “strength” is, most times, often perceived as pressure by them. Being everyone’s problem solver is often birthed from unconscious decision(s) one could make. Either from being the first child, or had a rough childhood so you got to find a way around life very early, or even being an empathetic person; and because the shoes fit perfectly, life decides to make the shoes fit for a pretty long time. And slowly… slowly but surely, these expectation...
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A LUXURIOUS JUSTICE???

  “While I was a student, it was more than a struggle for my parents. We were feeding from hand to mouth, literally, but we didn’t even have a choice to stop my schooling because they were more than bent on seeing me successful, and I on the other hand, was bent on making my uneducated parents proud. Honestly, we were getting used to the suffering. We kept on adapting and adapting till… well, my parents didnt know how I was going to adapt after bandits raided my school and kidnapped 64 of us, including our teachers and principal.   The news spread faster than wildfire and almost everyone in our not so little village knew about it. Of course, they did feel bad for the families of the victims, only for the next minute to be used to gaslight other villagers… not to leave their homes in search of us, or take the laws i to their hands, or even to go spiritual like we heard some communities do, but just to sit in bed and feel bad for the captives in the forest with bandits.  Ho...
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NEPO BABY OR SNEPO BABY

  One very funny thing about Nigerians is our ability to give a very wrong meaning to words or coining out our own word and using that word both in and out of context. A perfect example of this is “ nepo  & lapo babies” (our focus will be on the nepo babies) In Nigeria, a nepo(tism) baby is a child from a VERY RICH, or in better words, a luxurious background. “Nepo baby” has, for a while now being the newest word in Nigerians’ dictionary, with us forgetting what nepotism actually is. A regular Nigerian could, in a layman’s terms, define nepotism as being wealthy. Why? This is because we have misused the word “nepotism” to the extent of taking it out of context. Nepotism in it’s real and original sense, is a case or situation where someone (mostly family or friends) uses their influence to grant you and opportunity or a favor, whether or not you are qualified or befitting of that opportunity.  Take for instance your mum happens to be the one in charge of cooking and sh...
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