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  Only if Apostle Femi Lazarus had used another case study, he would have passed his message on peace without misconceptions and misunderstandings from viewers and listeners. Terming the mood swings that come with periods as being demonic is something really demonic itself. Let me make this clearer… (this is a going to be a personal post and I’d love to see personal comments in the comment section as well). Till I turned 19, I never fully understood what period cramps meant or what they really felt like; and growing up with mostly females around me, I used to be the ONLY joyous person when I was on my period… everyone else would always wriggle in pain, in tears and most times could not even function, including my younger sister who has no access to the internet or social media, so are we to call her demonic for being overstimulated due to the pain that comes with period??? Personally, I feel one should not have a say pertaining anything at all if you do not have the experience. Onc...

I’ve always suspected churches and mosques to be one of the problems affecting people who are all about “church,church, church” or “mosque,mosque, mosque”… it was something I wasn’t so sure of till I bumped into a video online. This video contained various people, both young and old, who were now living in regrets because of what their pastors and imams had told them to do… I kept on concluding I had heard the worst of them all till the next person spoke and I was in so much awe. It made me wonder: “is this the same religion the foreigners had introduced to us??” PS: I don’t usually do this (I mean, speaking against people’s belief, culture e.t.c.) but then I realized that we have a lot of young and ignorant people and as a matter of fact, they’re growing in numbers. Religious bondage is the oppressive, rigid or restrictive practices WITHIN religious institutions that refuse humans their autonomy and freedom. In my last article, I brushed past a belief that refuses blood transfusion, e...

 In the last 2 years of my life, I can say I have met a good number of different kinds and caliber of people. If only I had realized what I’m about to talk about on this piece, just maybe I would have had a wider network.  Of course when you decide to leave your comfort zone, you should be prepared for whatever it is that awaits you outside there and I think this is what most of us fail to admit. Asides you reading this, there are 7 billion other people in the world and these 7 billion people have their individual characters, attitudes e.t.c. and these are what makes us human (we cannot completely understand one another because there are no two alike persons).  You go about your daily activities and come across different people with different personalities; obviously you don’t get to like everyone you meet but how do you cope with people you don’t tend to like? You should follow these steps: - [ ] The first step has to be to TRY TO UNDERSTAND who and what this person coul...

- [ ] Looking at the past 19 years that I’ve been here on earth, I can say nothing but thank you to God and my lovely parents for the life they gave me… I couldn’t ask for anything better - [ ] Looking at the past 18 years, I’m grateful for the sort of education I was given. It molded me to who I am and who I’m growing to become - [ ] And 17 years ago till now? It’s been a really nice one for me. Having to be a child everyone wanted the best from… school, family church e.t.c. I couldn’t ask for a better immediate environment - [ ] 16 years ago happens to be a year I have no memory about but I doubt it was a year lesser than the rest - [ ] 15 years ago was when my writing journey started, unknown to me. It was the first time I wrote anything meaningful with my pencil (It was my full name) - [ ] And if I’m to look back at 14 years ago, I was giving meaning to life already. Wanting to grow to become a barrister, “standard living” had to be my best song as at the time (the desire for a com...

  “Once they stood with broken hearts, ‘women of war, of sickness, of scars, women who stayed when the night turned cold,  who bore their cross with a quiet brave soul. They were the single mothers made by fate, not by haste, nor by self-fed hate.   But now… omo, how the world has evolved, where love is rushed, and marriages are crushed.  Where wombs are bargained to trap a man, and marriage vows are made with a lustful mind. You rush in and rush out and call it, ‘lonely pride’, yet hide the tears they cry inside.   So many now wear motherhood not as a badge of trials withstood , but as a shield from their own past, a tale rewritten much too fast.  They flee from patience, from growing pain, from mending hearts through storms and rain.   Some flirted with men who meant no vow, yet bore their child, and wonder how the world should cheer and lift their name,  while shirking guilt and shifting blame.  “Independent, strong woman” they loudly cry,...

“I won’t beat you, just tell me the truth”- coming from the same person who taught me that the truth shall set me free!!!😭 “Love wasn’t girls landing in the hospital after a breakup, love was me loosing my mind in the hospital after loosing my husband”- coming from a millennial mother wanting to hop on a Gen Z TikTok trend😇❤️ “Oya don’t worry, I will cook my food myself”- coming from this woman who came to intrude in the kitchen after telling me to prepare dinner 🤦‍♀️ “Very good!”… and she proceeds to adjust her wrapper and looks away- coming from the mother who’s meant to share in my pain after I fall 🥲  “Every time, phone, phone, phone, that’s why you’re always sick”- coming from someone who’s meant to rush me down to the hospital rather than complaining 😑  “Must you go and see your friend? Can’t your friend come and see you?”- coming from a millennial mum who wants no visitor in her house😒 “You think you’re doing me? You’re doing yourself”- the usual anthem whenever t...

  “ Omo ti o ba da to baba re ni, eyi to oda to iya re ni ” which translates to “The child that is good is for the father, the child that is not good is for the mother” in English language, is a saying that would never sit well in my ears. In better words, it is a saying that is so condescending to one’s hearing. This gender role and war has been up for a long time and the earlier we get to see and understand that the society can be no better without JOINT EFFORT , the better for us all. Fortunately, I grew up in a home where roles were not assigned to the husband or the wife, and you know what this did to me? It mounded me to who I am right now and the woman/mother I will be. I watched my dad prepare my sisters and I for school and I watched my mum settle some bills in the home. My parents were so heavy on instilling in us the habit of giving a helping hand whenever and wherever you can. They did not just preach this to us but also practiced it between one another so having to ...

Call this feminism, I do not care, but let it be known that “to every supremacy and authority of a man, there should be a limit” . When I say I seek equal rights with a man, I do not mean struggling to take the position of a man. I’m simply seeking to be treated like a human. Women are human also! Personally, I feel there are certain cultures and by culture, I mean archaic habits of our forefathers that should have been dropped by now, in this age because the world is evolving and soonest, it would seize to evolve just around men.  The fact you can walk into a space or room but I can’t simply because I’m a woman, is insane, isn’t it? But you letting me know I won’t be able to go into that same space because I’m not strong enough to overcome the obstacles in it is enough reason for me to withdraw.  Look here, when Jesus told wives to submit to their husbands, he also yolks the husbands to love their wives just as he loves the church. Now, you can’t tell me you love me but beat ...