Old Wisdom, New Wounds

 I’m going to tell you a story and I need you to pay close attention to it so you can see the image I’m about to paint. 

“A girl lost her dad at a quite young age, right after taking her exams to get into college and she knew right then, that her life had taken a turn for the worse, but not wanting to give up, she took more exams, took up jobs and did everything to beat the unserious child allegations but guess what? Life kept happening and just when she thought it couldn’t get worse, it did get worst. This time, life came as the best thing that could have happened to her in years. It came in the guise of love. You know the excitement that comes with the feeling of ‘love’. Both parties were excited enough to let their families know about one another…”

 

This is where I need ALL of your attention

 

“… ‘hmmm. If you think that well of him, you can give it a try but don’t but don’t put all your emotions into it until you both are sure of it’, was the response of one of the both parties.

‘No! You can’t be with a fatherless person who has not figured out anything for herself. I can’t give you my blessings if you insist’, came the response from the second party. 

And all these left the young lady in awe and bewilderment, thinking to herself, ‘how is it my fault my life turned out this way??’

 

We’ll tackle that story from two perspectives; a millenial’s and a gen-z’s.

 

For a generation that takes in pride in knowing better, a very good number of the millennials are quite poor in emotional intelligence/maturity. Yes, maybe they do know better in terms of experience and hardship but when it comes to psychological, mental or emotional awareness, it’s a big no-no to them. They happen to be ignorant and maybe (or not) unaware of these 3 parts of a human’s well being. They may call their sense of judgement concern, or even cloth it as wisdom but in actual sense, it’s nothing but manipulation and narcissistic behavior. 

Of course, it’s very normal to want a better world, a better life for your child but definitely not at the expense of someone else’s child, most especially for the fact that this child DID NOT choose to have the life which everyone rejects. Sometimes, it’s not even the rejection that hurts. It is having to come to terms and living with the fact that your fate has made you appear as a person noy worthy of love, not from your peers but people who can parent you. And I think maybe if we went out of our parents’ way early enough, maybe they would have realized how bad their choices and decisions actually appear to be.

 

And for a generation that was raised by millenials and unfortunately for them, we happened to be more exposed to the actual sense of life earlier and know much more than we should, I think it’s simply in the best interest of everyone’s mental health to not turn out like majority of our parents. Whatever that red flag is/are that your parents possess, try your best to look inwardly and kill that old mentality in you.

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