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A LUXURIOUS JUSTICE???

  “While I was a student, it was more than a struggle for my parents. We were feeding from hand to mouth, literally, but we didn’t even have a choice to stop my schooling because they were more than bent on seeing me successful, and I on the other hand, was bent on making my uneducated parents proud. Honestly, we were getting used to the suffering. We kept on adapting and adapting till… well, my parents didnt know how I was going to adapt after bandits raided my school and kidnapped 64 of us, including our teachers and principal.   The news spread faster than wildfire and almost everyone in our not so little village knew about it. Of course, they did feel bad for the families of the victims, only for the next minute to be used to gaslight other villagers… not to leave their homes in search of us, or take the laws i to their hands, or even to go spiritual like we heard some communities do, but just to sit in bed and feel bad for the captives in the forest with bandits.  Ho...
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You 100, Laziness 0

Okay so laziness happens to be one thing almost everyone must have experienced at one point or the other. While it could be a swing of mood for some, it could be a lifestyle for others. Laziness in my point of view could be seen as a feeling of reluctant or decreased motivation to getting something done.  Whatever it could be, be it tedious or not, once laziness creeps in, it's usually due to a lack of motivation. Mind you, we could mistake laziness for something else as...maybe a brain fog🤷‍♀️ or even tiredness/fatigue😴; and that is why I stated earlier that it would be out of a mood swing. Of course, it's okay to feel lazy sometimes but we shouldn't forget to always take note of ourselves to realize when laziness is turning out to be a habit for us.  Laziness helps with nothing really, well, unless it creeps in at the right time🫵😉 but just to serve as a break from a tedious activity😗.  Growing up in a Nigerian home to be called lazy was or is rather, something I'...
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Displeasure To Achieve Pleasure!

Displeasing Yourself To Please Yourself? Yes, I'll call that self discipline. I, personally, am actually a person that feels later consequence pays more than immediate consequence (good or bad). Now, self discipline, in my own simple terms, would be defined as a decision or step taken by one to displease their self for later pleasure. What do I mean?  A situation where I fight down the whole lot of pressure I get from my friends to smoke and involve myself in all kinds of bad habits will lead me to no other but not getting to have any issues with my lungs, kidney and other organs that could get affected due to taking in toxens (cigarettes and the likes). Another instance could be me figuring out feelings or whatsoever, I may think I have for people at a young teen age and this would leave me with having a right and not wrong insight about love. These and many more could be used as case studies for self discipline.  Though it is not too wrong and at the same time, not alright i...
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STRONG ENOUGH, BUT AT WHAT COST?

  I want you to take a moment and think of that one person you know that has it figured out. That person you can always go to for whatever help it is that you need, that person you notice/see everyone go to for advice, help and assistance, that one person you know that is always giving (most times not given), … or in better words, that one strong person you know.   These people we call strong, are most times, simply pressured. When they realize that the expectations of everyone around them is to be a standby guide and guard to them, that “strength” is, most times, often perceived as pressure by them. Being everyone’s problem solver is often birthed from unconscious decision(s) one could make. Either from being the first child, or had a rough childhood so you got to find a way around life very early, or even being an empathetic person; and because the shoes fit perfectly, life decides to make the shoes fit for a pretty long time. And slowly… slowly but surely, these expectation...
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A LUXURIOUS JUSTICE???

  “While I was a student, it was more than a struggle for my parents. We were feeding from hand to mouth, literally, but we didn’t even have a choice to stop my schooling because they were more than bent on seeing me successful, and I on the other hand, was bent on making my uneducated parents proud. Honestly, we were getting used to the suffering. We kept on adapting and adapting till… well, my parents didnt know how I was going to adapt after bandits raided my school and kidnapped 64 of us, including our teachers and principal.   The news spread faster than wildfire and almost everyone in our not so little village knew about it. Of course, they did feel bad for the families of the victims, only for the next minute to be used to gaslight other villagers… not to leave their homes in search of us, or take the laws i to their hands, or even to go spiritual like we heard some communities do, but just to sit in bed and feel bad for the captives in the forest with bandits.  Ho...
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NEPO BABY OR SNEPO BABY

  One very funny thing about Nigerians is our ability to give a very wrong meaning to words or coining out our own word and using that word both in and out of context. A perfect example of this is “ nepo  & lapo babies” (our focus will be on the nepo babies) In Nigeria, a nepo(tism) baby is a child from a VERY RICH, or in better words, a luxurious background. “Nepo baby” has, for a while now being the newest word in Nigerians’ dictionary, with us forgetting what nepotism actually is. A regular Nigerian could, in a layman’s terms, define nepotism as being wealthy. Why? This is because we have misused the word “nepotism” to the extent of taking it out of context. Nepotism in it’s real and original sense, is a case or situation where someone (mostly family or friends) uses their influence to grant you and opportunity or a favor, whether or not you are qualified or befitting of that opportunity.  Take for instance your mum happens to be the one in charge of cooking and sh...
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