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What then is the beauty of maturing if not unlearning to relearn? I feel as humans, we may have at one point or the other let this mindset or mentality rather have the better part of us. Of course, I’ll always say it is normal to feel overwhelmed but while this is going on, we shouldn’t be carried away but rather, think of ways to get out of life problems and keep moving; and to do this, the very first thing to do is to delete the concept of THE VICTIM’S MENTALITY. Be you a student, a struggling adult, a boyfriend/girlfriend or even a leader, the moment you delete this victim’s mentality from your head, I feel life will be less complicated. “What is this girl talking about?”, you may ask… The Victim’s Mentality is a situation whereby a person sees him/herself as a victim in any given circumstance, even when there is evidence to show otherwise. Let’s look at this from a student’s level. You see, a lecturer of mine made me understand that the best an educator, within the 4 walls of a ...

 SETTLING FOR LESS. I bumped into this meme that said: “ if you actually calm down to think about it, you’ll realize the reason you’re still single is most likely because you could be the “ less ” people don’t want to settle for ” *speaking solely against Gen Z girls, even if I’m Gen Z* “I can’t settle for less”, “girl, don’t let anyone make you settle for less”… coming from “the less” 😏 What does it actually mean to settle for less? Settling for less means settling for a situation or person below one’s ideal standard. (I’ll be addressing this financially, emotionally and mentally because this is meant to be a Valentine’s Day post). According to the meaning of settling for less, I personally see no reason why one would set a standard you’re not even up to.🤷‍♀️ Preaching to everyone about how you want an intelligent, rich, emotionally intelligent/supportive guy whereas, you’re just:  So unintelligent  A soft girl that should be babied and shouldn’t be working Someone wh...

  I always thought I was a Lagos girl till sometime in December 2024 when I got into a bus that gave me a better and clearer perspective of Lagos, Nigeria. Yeah, it’s story time this time around😉 So, apparently, my bus stop happens to be one where it is a whole war to find a bus; an affordable one for a student at that. 3 big Sanford buses could legit take a U-turn and would get full even before completing the U- turn, reason being that passengers would have already crossed to enter the bus on sighting it. Oh well, very unfortunately for me this day, 2 big buses made a U-turn but wasn’t full yet so I decided to go for one of the buses. My flat mate and I got into the bus and decided to lap but this strange guy told us to sit. “No sir, we’re lapping and the conductor knows” was my reply. “Sir, we lap everyday so don’t worry” came my flat mate’s reply before I had even completed my statement but this stranger persuaded us till we gave in…and we did give in because he offered to fo...