STILL BECOMING

  To the one person that made my 19th year a memorable one, David Adedolapo Obadiah, I love you so much. If I took nothing out of my 19th year, at least I know not to “settle” anymore, and self discovery is not an action or a process. It is a constant cycle/struggle/growth that takes place at certain intervals in life; and this brings me to dropping this bombshell¡ Until January 17th 2027, my blog would be shut down. I wrote for free for over 3 years and now, I have thought to rebrand ’Style De Vie blog’, maybe with a different name, maybe with a different logo, but definitely an entirely different website!😊 But in the meantime, while cooking, I will be closing contracts and landing clients in the writing field. I am still a writer, a full time freelance content writer who is also into social media management (still cooking up more skills for my readers😽).  So, please, if you are looking for any type of writer, or a social media manager, I’m very much available and would lov...
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Settling for less


 SETTLING FOR LESS.

I bumped into this meme that said: “if you actually calm down to think about it, you’ll realize the reason you’re still single is most likely because you could be the “less” people don’t want to settle for”

*speaking solely against Gen Z girls, even if I’m Gen Z*

“I can’t settle for less”, “girl, don’t let anyone make you settle for less”… coming from “the less” 😏

What does it actually mean to settle for less?

Settling for less means settling for a situation or person below one’s ideal standard. (I’ll be addressing this financially, emotionally and mentally because this is meant to be a Valentine’s Day post). According to the meaning of settling for less, I personally see no reason why one would set a standard you’re not even up to.🤷‍♀️

Preaching to everyone about how you want an intelligent, rich, emotionally intelligent/supportive guy whereas, you’re just:

  •  So unintelligent

  •  A soft girl that should be babied and shouldn’t be working

  • Someone who can’t help with the littlest support you could give to a mentally stressed person

  • Only supportive when you’re sure of a financial reward in return.

What is my point exactly?

As a girl all about “not settling for less”, ensure you’re not the less by:

  • Trying to sound like a sane human being should.

  •  Having something legal to fetch you money so guys don’t embarrass you or better still, make you feel inferior.

  •  Trying your best to give him some alone time (if you’re not good at being emotionally supportive) rather than making him feel worse.

  •  Not letting a man have the mindset that you’re invaluable to him


Comments

  1. AnonymousFebruary 14, 2025 at 10:12 AM

    I love this some girls Gosh

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  2. Etim 💕February 14, 2025 at 10:14 AM

    Preach, sister 🗣️🗣️❤️❤️

    ReplyDelete
  3. AnonymousFebruary 14, 2025 at 10:23 AM

    Preach!

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  4. AnonymousFebruary 14, 2025 at 10:34 AM

    Lot of girls need to read this

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  5. AnonymousFebruary 14, 2025 at 12:28 PM

    just know what you want as a person and don't downplay anyone because probably they don't meet your standard
    and you that is setting a standard make sure there is a match on your own end

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  6. AnonymousFebruary 14, 2025 at 12:46 PM

    Wisdom, burst my brain please!! 🙂🔥🙌🏾

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  7. MosesFebruary 14, 2025 at 12:56 PM

    People like you are hope for the remaining girls in this generation.
    God bless you with wisdom

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  8. AnonymousFebruary 14, 2025 at 1:51 PM

    🔥👍

    ReplyDelete
  9. AnonymousFebruary 14, 2025 at 10:09 PM

    👍👍👍

    ReplyDelete
  10. AnonymousFebruary 14, 2025 at 11:37 PM

    Spot on !!!!!!
    I’m impressed

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  11. AnonymousFebruary 15, 2025 at 3:46 AM

    Ifiok i Really love this fr

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  12. AnonymousFebruary 15, 2025 at 8:00 AM

    Very educative

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  13. AnonymousFebruary 15, 2025 at 11:00 AM

    Good piece. You are doing a good job. Before you rate one as less, you should also assess yourself. Your first paragraph said it all, what if you are the less

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  14. AnonymousFebruary 15, 2025 at 10:36 PM

    Hmmmm
    This for some people is like “reality hits"......but after this..some people are still so stupid.. that they'll just scroll pass and not take a lesson
    Thanks for this ma'am 😊

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  15. AnonymousFebruary 17, 2025 at 6:29 AM

    This is so true cos why are you looking for something you cannot give 😌

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  16. SharonFebruary 24, 2025 at 9:14 AM

    Tell them!!!

    ReplyDelete

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