Identity Over Feminism

 I would always remember heated arguments I had with my teachers and male classmates back then in high school. These arguments never surpassed gender equality and back then, my teachers would always say to me: “How do you intend getting married with this mindset?”… the mindset was indeed extreme.

I also went as far as writing an article on feminism just to impress my favorite teacher and although he was really impressed (I suppose), I couldn’t stand even one of his questions when he threw them at me.

It was after graduating from high school and started familiarizing with the society that I got to understand certain things and adjust my mindset of equity with a man.

I accepted that:

● A woman would NEVER be in equal stand with a man. POV: that doesn’t make her less a human or give any man whosoever trample on a woman.

● A man comes first before a woman in the sense that in whatever happens, a woman is MEANT TO be subject to a man in any and every ramifications of life.

● No matter how long the fight for feminism lasts, it is not going to have its place in the world.

 

Mind you, these acceptances doesn’t in any way mean I’d be docile to a man. I mean:

● I am going to be an independent woman (just like my mother); and when I say “independent”, I mean a woman who can not only fend fully for herself, but also be the support the holy books and the society talks about.

● I would want to be a woman of virtue, courage and most of it all, a woman of value and impact who would not only be looked up to by just my fellow females but also men.

● Lastly (I am putting this out hoping my future husband reads this someday), anything, asides sex, that I didn’t do to my father, I would not do to whoever ends up to be my husband… You know why?

 

Na man you be, you no be God.