UNSEEN LABOR

These days, society pays more attention to gender war, failed marriages, body goals, gym goals e.t.c. and fail to look into one of the most delicate and important part of humanity. That one sa rice that has to be made for the sake of humanity. If we keep on blinding ourselves with the hatred of the other gender, comparing one “perfect” marriage to the other, someone else’s looks to the other, at what point do we start start paying attention to the fragility of two lives in the labor room? When do we begin to appreciate the love, submission and acceptance it takes to bring another life to the world?

The bravery it takes to go in and come out of a labor room leaves me wondering how excellent a woman’s body actually works. I saw a post that explained the stages of how a woman’s body goes back t shape after childbirth and most times, the body does not even go back to its exact shape without a lot of work in the gym. Coincidentally, I also bumped into a post that educated women on how to have a good stay and life before, during and after childbirth. These posts made me confirm a quote I made sometime ago: “THE MOMENT WE BEGIN TREATING EACH OTHER AS HUMANS AND NOT BASED ON GENDER OR SENTIMENTS, MAYBE, JUST MAYBE THE WORLD COULD BE A BETTER PLACE”. 

Personally, I do not understand beliefs and people who reject certain medical aids. A belief that would let you watch a human die just because blood transfusion is not accepted is really diabolical and should be canceled! I would recommend women, even before getting pregnant to: 

Ø Find out the way your partner thinks health wise i.e caesarean delivery, blood transfusion, antenatal e.t.c.

Ø Ensure your partner’s family members also have a right mindset health wise 

Ø No matter how rich your partner is, make sure to have your own money… e get why

Ø Also ensure to educate yourself about health do you can differentiate the bare minimum you should know health wise, especially as an expectant mother i.e make sure to be able to tell the difference between a quack nurse,an auxiliary nurse and a registered nurse, the difference between a chemist, a medical doctor and a gynecologist obstetrician. These personnels  have have terms they use in their fields and may not be totally knowledgeable about other fields. 

Ø Register in the nearest, well equipped and well staffed hospital close to you to avoid complications due to understaffed and poorly equipped hospitals in cases of emergency. 

Ø Prepare financially (with your own money) before time in case of situations like caesarean operation. Your partner could decide to act funny on that fateful day and that is when you would have to come through for yourself. 

Ø As a woman, you can sign for consent for your surgery or operation rather. You do not need to seek permission from any other person but you to save your own life. Know the law! Know your right! 

Ø Lastly, confirm if your genotype and that of your partner are compatible, to avoid bringing unnecessary suffering and torment in innocent children. 

It is the sickle cell awareness month and it is usually advisable to bring up the topic about genotype in the beginning of any relationship, before things get serious and even to the point of pregnancy. Have you seen a sickle cell warrior in the labor room? It is not an encouraging sight to behold. 

If our parents’ generation cared less about these things, we should not let that be part of us because now, we know better. 

Comments

  1. Omogbolahan🤷‍♂️September 21, 2025 at 12:11 PM

    Nicely done✔️. It’s really deep and true. People forget the real things that matter in life. Health, preparation and valuing human life should come first before all these gender fights and body goals.

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  2. AnonymousSeptember 21, 2025 at 12:40 PM

    Well done 💪 jawe 🤩
    You hit the nail on the head
    Keep up the great work 💪

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  3. AnonymousSeptember 21, 2025 at 1:02 PM

    Very good writing, descriptive and easily explanatory piece. I love how slipped in Genotype checking before marriage so as to avoid sickle cell pregnancy, I love this piece

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  4. SocannistSeptember 21, 2025 at 2:22 PM

    This piece presents a thoughtful mix of reality and health perspectives, offering a good point of view. However, it can be further improved by using more literary expressions to create better balance throughout the article. Some of the plots and solutions highlighted seemed somewhat inconvenient and could be refined for clarity and effectiveness. Overall, it is a great effort—well done, and keep it up

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  5. FavourSeptember 21, 2025 at 2:33 PM

    I'm glad you are talking about this, some people will not just look into things that are very important rather something isn't necessary. The value of humanity and health care are very important in today's world but some refuse to see it.

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  6. AnonymousSeptember 21, 2025 at 8:03 PM

    Really wish this would go viral so as to educate some few persons

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  7. Neerah ♥️September 22, 2025 at 4:40 AM

    This is a great reminder that Sickle Cell is a crucial topic that deserves more attention, especially when it comes to relationships, marriage, and family planning. Genotype examination can be a vital step before starting a family.

    I appreciate how this brings up Sickle Cell awareness, particularly in the context of relationships and family planning. Knowing one's genotype can make a big difference.
    Such a good read!

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  8. AnonymousSeptember 22, 2025 at 7:06 AM

    This is really nice. It's raising an awareness. I pray our generation does not make the same mistakes our parents made.

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  9. AnonymousSeptember 22, 2025 at 8:26 AM

    Nice write up, but I don’t think you finalized any point. You drove us around much.

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