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STILL BECOMING

  To the one person that made my 19th year a memorable one, David Adedolapo Obadiah, I love you so much. If I took nothing out of my 19th year, at least I know not to “settle” anymore, and self discovery is not an action or a process. It is a constant cycle/struggle/growth that takes place at certain intervals in life; and this brings me to dropping this bombshell¡ Until January 17th 2027, my blog would be shut down. I wrote for free for over 3 years and now, I have thought to rebrand ’Style De Vie blog’, maybe with a different name, maybe with a different logo, but definitely an entirely different website!😊 But in the meantime, while cooking, I will be closing contracts and landing clients in the writing field. I am still a writer, a full time freelance content writer who is also into social media management (still cooking up more skills for my readers😽).  So, please, if you are looking for any type of writer, or a social media manager, I’m very much available and would lov...
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The Comparison Trap - "I'm not good enough for..."

Ngl, for every single person I've come across, I have at one point or the other felt intimidated and looked at them from the very narrow practical perspective of their lives with which I had seen them from. By this statement, I mean every single person I have met😂 so if you're reading this and you know Ify in person, yes, I have at one point 'eyed' you.  The comparison trap could come in comparing yourself with different things belonging to the people around you. It could come in form of wealth, beauty, talent, accomplishment, intellect, success, e.t.c. I'll be using myself as a major case study in this article because I am a person so guilty of this 😭😂 or should i say entangled in this trap. While being entangled in a comparison trap has its pros and cons, we shouldn't forget to develop ourselves with the positive effects rather than the negative ones as it could lead to different psychological illnesses, some of which are anxiety, eating disorders and many ...
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Location: Lagos, Nigeria
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Stress Management Techniques And Mindfulness Practices for Navigating Life's Challenges.

Understanding Stress Be it personal challenges, financial difficulties, or tension from the workplace or school, stress happens to be one inevitable part of our lives. It plays a very effective role in our daily mental and physical well-being. Very fortunately, I'll be sharing here some stress management techniques that could be adopted by anyone. But before getting to that, let's get started with what stress means in simple terms. What is Stress? Now, I would define stress as a state of tension, be it mental, physical, or financial, often caused or stirred up by a situation hard to control. In simpler words, a difficult situation. Stress is a very natural "ishh" we could go through at some point in life as it could help in some cases. But in a situation where your stress becomes too overwhelming for you to handle, I'll be recommending some steps in this articr that I feel should help to an extent, at least. Understanding and Managing Stress: First off, I feel you...
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Location: Lagos, Nigeria
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You Are Not Depressed —You Are Just Sad.

 Alright, folks, let's kick things off! In this 21st century, about 80% of teenagers seem to be voicing concerns about depression , which I find rather amusing. To me, it seems like many of these youngsters are simply feeling down rather than clinically depressed. "They're just upset because they're not getting what they want," I'd say.  As time goes by on my little corner here, I might share some anecdotes about some people in my life. Now, why do I find it amusing when teenagers talk about depression ? Well, in my humble opinion, if the source of your unhappiness isn't family-related, then labeling yourself as 'depressed' might be a bit of a stretch. I'll touch on this topic lightly, staying mostly on the surface. Alright, let me share a personal story. There was a time when people thought I was spiraling into depression, but nah 😂 I kept rejecting that notion. I had done my research on depression and was confident I wasn't slipping int...
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The Beginning!

Welcome To The Enchanting World of Ify's Style de Vie Blog!  Drumrolls!!!!!! My lovely readers! I'm thrilled to welcome each and every one of you to my little corner of the internet. I'm Ifiok Emediong Gabriel , and it's an absolute delight to have you here with me.  I'll make this short😚😚. As you delve into the pages of my blog, I want to express my sincerest gratitude for joining me on this journey. Get ready for an exciting ride through the world of lifestyle wonders. Whether it's fashion, food, travel, or just the little quirks of daily life, I promise to serve up a delightful blend of stories, insights, and musings that will leave you feeling uplifted and wanting more. So, don't worry, my friends, I'm here to be your trusty companion on this literary adventure. Together, we'll explore the depths of human experience, guided by laughter and fueled by curiosity. And don't fret, (e ma fo👀😊), because I'm committed to getting better with e...
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Location: Lagos, Nigeria
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STILL BECOMING

  To the one person that made my 19th year a memorable one, David Adedolapo Obadiah, I love you so much. If I took nothing out of my 19th year, at least I know not to “settle” anymore, and self discovery is not an action or a process. It is a constant cycle/struggle/growth that takes place at certain intervals in life; and this brings me to dropping this bombshell¡ Until January 17th 2027, my blog would be shut down. I wrote for free for over 3 years and now, I have thought to rebrand ’Style De Vie blog’, maybe with a different name, maybe with a different logo, but definitely an entirely different website!😊 But in the meantime, while cooking, I will be closing contracts and landing clients in the writing field. I am still a writer, a full time freelance content writer who is also into social media management (still cooking up more skills for my readers😽).  So, please, if you are looking for any type of writer, or a social media manager, I’m very much available and would lov...
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Old Wisdom, New Wounds

  I’m going to tell you a story and I need you to pay close attention to it so you can see the image I’m about to paint.   “A girl lost her dad at a quite young age, right after taking her exams to get into college and she knew right then, that her life had taken a turn for the worse, but not wanting to give up, she took more exams, took up jobs and did everything to beat the unserious child allegations but guess what? Life kept happening and just when she thought it couldn’t get worse, it did get worst. This time, life came as the best thing that could have happened to her in years. It came in the guise of love. You know the excitement that comes with the feeling of ‘love’. Both parties were excited enough to let their families know about one another…”   This is where I need ALL of your attention   “… ‘hmmm. If you think that well of him, you can give it a try but don’t but don’t put all your emotions into it until you both are sure of it’, was the response of one o...
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A LIMIT THAT FAILED

  “I hope my greeting meets every one of us well. I am Zanni Emmanuel and I count it not only as a blessing but also a privilege to be here to give this speech. I was overwhelmed with utmost joy when photography to slums got an invite to grace this event. It made me feel a step closer, not only to my dream but also the dream of the initiative, photography to slums.   I remember when I got to hear about photography to slums; I thought to myself “why not grab this opportunity and make every use of it you can?” and I can beat my chest to say that I did make a right choice.  Photography to slums has grounded my stand on the belief that “Nothing, not even your limitations can limit you unless you choose to be limited”. That I can take photographs from any angle and view makes me have this feeling of fulfillment. I mean, I know I could live my dreams but not this early and once again, I’m very grateful to the initiators of the initiative, photography to slums.  You see, I ...
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