Style de Vie

- [ ] Looking at the past 19 years that I’ve been here on earth, I can say nothing but thank you to God and my lovely parents for the life they gave me… I couldn’t ask for anything better - [ ] Looking at the past 18 years, I’m grateful for the sort of education I was given. It molded me to who I am and who I’m growing to become - [ ] And 17 years ago till now? It’s been a really nice one for me. Having to be a child everyone wanted the best from… school, family church e.t.c. I couldn’t ask for a better immediate environment - [ ] 16 years ago happens to be a year I have no memory about but I doubt it was a year lesser than the rest - [ ] 15 years ago was when my writing journey started, unknown to me. It was the first time I wrote anything meaningful with my pencil (It was my full name) - [ ] And if I’m to look back at 14 years ago, I was giving meaning to life already. Wanting to grow to become a barrister, “standard living” had to be my best song as at the time (the desire for a com...

  “Once they stood with broken hearts, ‘women of war, of sickness, of scars, women who stayed when the night turned cold,  who bore their cross with a quiet brave soul. They were the single mothers made by fate, not by haste, nor by self-fed hate.   But now… omo, how the world has evolved, where love is rushed, and marriages are crushed.  Where wombs are bargained to trap a man, and marriage vows are made with a lustful mind. You rush in and rush out and call it, ‘lonely pride’, yet hide the tears they cry inside.   So many now wear motherhood not as a badge of trials withstood , but as a shield from their own past, a tale rewritten much too fast.  They flee from patience, from growing pain, from mending hearts through storms and rain.   Some flirted with men who meant no vow, yet bore their child, and wonder how the world should cheer and lift their name,  while shirking guilt and shifting blame.  “Independent, strong woman” they loudly cry,...

Step 1 and only step:  find a person you can trust and be vulnerable with.

You would agree with me that most times, men and women do not think alike. While men think and handle situations most times thinking with their brains, women on the other hand often handle situations using their motions. Really, think about whatever situation it could be… A woman would think with her heart and mind you, you really cannot blame them because these two genders have a clock, each ticking against the other, or maybe for the other. This different clocks is what makes them see life from two very different perspectives.  While a woman is on a biological clock, a man is on a financial clock.  The biological clock is a timer set for every woman. This timer counts down each day, reminding her that the older she gets, the more her body depreciates and this explains why most times, women appear to be the victim in relationships. They honestly don’t want to run out of time so they try as much as possible (and even impossible) to set things right with the people around them....

“I won’t beat you, just tell me the truth”- coming from the same person who taught me that the truth shall set me free!!!😭 “Love wasn’t girls landing in the hospital after a breakup, love was me loosing my mind in the hospital after loosing my husband”- coming from a millennial mother wanting to hop on a Gen Z TikTok trend😇❤️ “Oya don’t worry, I will cook my food myself”- coming from this woman who came to intrude in the kitchen after telling me to prepare dinner 🤦‍♀️ “Very good!”… and she proceeds to adjust her wrapper and looks away- coming from the mother who’s meant to share in my pain after I fall 🥲  “Every time, phone, phone, phone, that’s why you’re always sick”- coming from someone who’s meant to rush me down to the hospital rather than complaining 😑  “Must you go and see your friend? Can’t your friend come and see you?”- coming from a millennial mum who wants no visitor in her house😒 “You think you’re doing me? You’re doing yourself”- the usual anthem whenever t...

For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son… You will agree with me that love is sacrifice and it is this sacrifice which makes up love is what often makes us mistake love as an action instead of an emotion that it is.  In this piece, you’re free to picture whatever kind of love it is that comes to your mind and tell me if it does not reasonable with what you will read below. I would be using God’s love and a mother’s love for my evaluation.  To understand this piece, I would want us to take note of these two points:  ●  Love itself is one thing, while the act(s) of love is another:  It is very different to “be loved” and to “be loved BECAUSE…”. It is why the only love that can be compared to God’s love is a mother’s love. A mother would never spare her last money to her child because her child has cute eyes; neither will God spare your life in accident because He wants to see if you will tell everyone about the love He has for you. You see, lo...

  I will always tell youngsters like me to not be faster than their shadows- I mean, you can but you should not [I don’t know if we understand what I mean]. Between ages 13-18/19, your prior aim should be your personal growth, talents, skills, studies e.t.c. but in whatever you end up focusing on, bothering yourself with the thoughts of how to be in vogue, or how to please a person in the name of a relationship is something that should not be because you are more likely to be distracted from your main focus. For instance, me deliberating on saving up my allowance to get me a laptop or getting me a pair of loafers… My only gain in going for the latter [the pair of loafers] is feeling among and trendy, ignoring or forgetting rather, what it would cost me if I do not get me a laptop soonest. But you know what my gains would be if I went for the former [a laptop]? Not only will I be able to generate the money to get me a pair of loafers but I will also get to feel among one of those gi...