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I was so engrossed in my own world that I cared less about life. I didn’t realize this till I threw a very silly question at my roommate, “Is child marriage really practiced in Nigeria?” Not until after I threw that question did it dawn on me that I had withdrawn almost totally from the society.  There was also a movie released some time ago which narrated child marriage and I love that it didn’t only portray the traditional part of it but also the psychological effect this could have on the child, THE FARMER’S BRIDE.  Of recent too, there were videos of old cargos surfacing online, crying in so much anguish over the ban of child marriage and I couldn’t help but say in my defense that the society, put together, could legit make one go psycho. I don’t know… but in my opinion,  child marriage is not only pedophilia, but also rape (I do not stand to be corrected). I don’t care how anyone is going to paint this but even if one is to say these girls consent to sex with these o...

  Do you remember a post I made sometime ago about financial and biological clock? I stayed clearly in that piece how and why each gender acts the way they do; while the males are more focused on their financial clock, the females on the other hand, are more focused on their biological clock. But come to think of it, it appears now, that women are no longer really interested on whether or not they’re on time on their biological clock. Everyone is now more focused on their financial clock and we all want to be “there” But who’s to be blamed for this change?  Asides the fact that the world is now wired in a certain way, the following are reasons or factors rather, that has prompted women’s motif and focus to change from the biological to financial clock:  l  Gender stereotypes: Right from time, the female gender has always been seen as that which is restricted and “obliged” to care, groom, the kitchen and many other chores which should not be gender based but things an...

I’ve always suspected churches and mosques to be one of the problems affecting people who are all about “church,church, church” or “mosque,mosque, mosque”… it was something I wasn’t so sure of till I bumped into a video online. This video contained various people, both young and old, who were now living in regrets because of what their pastors and imams had told them to do… I kept on concluding I had heard the worst of them all till the next person spoke and I was in so much awe. It made me wonder: “is this the same religion the foreigners had introduced to us??” PS: I don’t usually do this (I mean, speaking against people’s belief, culture e.t.c.) but then I realized that we have a lot of young and ignorant people and as a matter of fact, they’re growing in numbers. Religious bondage is the oppressive, rigid or restrictive practices WITHIN religious institutions that refuse humans their autonomy and freedom. In my last article, I brushed past a belief that refuses blood transfusion, e...

These days, society pays more attention to gender war, failed marriages, body goals, gym goals e.t.c. and fail to look into one of the most delicate and important part of humanity. That one sa rice that has to be made for the sake of humanity. If we keep on blinding ourselves with the hatred of the other gender, comparing one “perfect” marriage to the other, someone else’s looks to the other, at what point do we start start paying attention to the fragility of two lives in the labor room? When do we begin to appreciate the love, submission and acceptance it takes to bring another life to the world? The bravery it takes to go in and come out of a labor room leaves me wondering how excellent a woman’s body actually works. I saw a post that explained the stages of how a woman’s body goes back t shape after childbirth and most times, the body does not even go back to its exact shape without a lot of work in the gym. Coincidentally, I also bumped into a post that educated women on how to ha...

MY LAGOS EXPERIENCE (||) They said when life throws lemons at you, you make lemonades out of it … Life had thrown 2 huge bitter lemons at me and my lemonade almost went wrong (because my lemons were bitter). Asides the fact I was trying my possible best to keep my sanity, I also had exams to prepare for- these exams were also sanity-threatening but what could I do? I had to pass these exams to figure out what and where my problems were coming from. So, I decided to meet with some intellectual coursemates to aid and ease my preparations for exams. Now, the main deal … How did I get to my coursemates ’ hostel? Sometime ago, I published an article describing what my bus stop happens to be like (no buses to be boarded, crowds at the bus stop, scorching sun e.t.c.). I thought that must have been the worst that could happen to at my bus stop, not until I stood for over an hour, unable to board a bus. The sun was scorching, I was with a lot of bags, the people at the ...

 In the last 2 years of my life, I can say I have met a good number of different kinds and caliber of people. If only I had realized what I’m about to talk about on this piece, just maybe I would have had a wider network.  Of course when you decide to leave your comfort zone, you should be prepared for whatever it is that awaits you outside there and I think this is what most of us fail to admit. Asides you reading this, there are 7 billion other people in the world and these 7 billion people have their individual characters, attitudes e.t.c. and these are what makes us human (we cannot completely understand one another because there are no two alike persons).  You go about your daily activities and come across different people with different personalities; obviously you don’t get to like everyone you meet but how do you cope with people you don’t tend to like? You should follow these steps: - [ ] The first step has to be to TRY TO UNDERSTAND who and what this person coul...

- [ ] Looking at the past 19 years that I’ve been here on earth, I can say nothing but thank you to God and my lovely parents for the life they gave me… I couldn’t ask for anything better - [ ] Looking at the past 18 years, I’m grateful for the sort of education I was given. It molded me to who I am and who I’m growing to become - [ ] And 17 years ago till now? It’s been a really nice one for me. Having to be a child everyone wanted the best from… school, family church e.t.c. I couldn’t ask for a better immediate environment - [ ] 16 years ago happens to be a year I have no memory about but I doubt it was a year lesser than the rest - [ ] 15 years ago was when my writing journey started, unknown to me. It was the first time I wrote anything meaningful with my pencil (It was my full name) - [ ] And if I’m to look back at 14 years ago, I was giving meaning to life already. Wanting to grow to become a barrister, “standard living” had to be my best song as at the time (the desire for a com...