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STILL BECOMING

  To the one person that made my 19th year a memorable one, David Adedolapo Obadiah, I love you so much. If I took nothing out of my 19th year, at least I know not to “settle” anymore, and self discovery is not an action or a process. It is a constant cycle/struggle/growth that takes place at certain intervals in life; and this brings me to dropping this bombshell¡ Until January 17th 2027, my blog would be shut down. I wrote for free for over 3 years and now, I have thought to rebrand ’Style De Vie blog’, maybe with a different name, maybe with a different logo, but definitely an entirely different website!😊 But in the meantime, while cooking, I will be closing contracts and landing clients in the writing field. I am still a writer, a full time freelance content writer who is also into social media management (still cooking up more skills for my readers😽).  So, please, if you are looking for any type of writer, or a social media manager, I’m very much available and would lov...
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2025 wrapped

I have never had a worse, excruciating, more bitter phase than I’ve had in the last two months. While my days were for thinking in and out of the box for ways I could keep myself in motion, the nights were for silent cries when that realization of futility hits me and also the pain that came with admitting the fact that I was stuck in a cycle I had, or have, rather, the power to change but hadn’t found the strength yet, made me resort to things I never imagined myself to do. Good thing I gathered the courage to open up to the people I felt could put me through life, and thankfully, my guts were not wrong.  “Count your blessings and name them one after the other”, was the response I received from all three of them and then suddenly, I discovered that indeed, God was really there for me all through the year. “2025 is my year” l  I had a crazy character development, to an extent at least  l  I got a job that also aided my development  l  I made 2 new friends I...
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FAITH OR LIFE

  Sometime ago, I think published an article on religious bondage and I felt fulfilled speaking out on such controversial topic because it really used to piss me off… but up until some days ago, where a woman was trendy due to the fact that she happens to be under the shackles of her belief and her fellow believers. (Story time) Apparently, she had been sick a while ago, and rather than using a medical method to treat herself, she opted for a “traditional” means. This traditional means made her health get worse to the extent of having a very huge sore on her breast. She then decided to come online (on X, formerly twitter) to ask for assistance (medical and maybe financial). Being a person a lot of X users knew, due to the fact she was a real and legit hustler, about 30 million naira was raised for her health issues within 3 days… everyone really wanted her to get out of the sick bed and continue being AUNTY ESTHER.  First of all, protocols had to be observed and a form of cons...
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When Peace Becomes A Privilege

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I still cannot wrap my head around the fact that we still have the whole of year 2026 and part of 2027 to continue living this way.  While prepping  this piece, I remembered a  song  that was on the lips of almost every Nigerian barely six months into this present government  (video attached beneath). I couldn't help but ask myself, were we really complaining about Mr. B AT  then, if only the future us had seen today, if only our 2023 selves  got a  peep into today to see that the order of the day has become kidnapping and terrorism and it is spreading like a virus at this point. These terrorists are not the regular terrorists, they are the content creator type of terrorists who update the country on their trips and yet we have the military doing nothing but standing by the same dangerous roadsides to collect common 200 Naira from struggling Nigerians who are trying to earn a living from transportation … Stay with me. Can we even talk about th is ...
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Hey Dad,

I think I will ask God "why" for the rest of my life. And never will I come to understand it Even if God himself came in front of me to tell me the reason, I don't think I will accept it Some loves are too hard to bear And with great loves come great pain, And with great loss, Comes the greatest pain of all If love could have saved you...  You would've lived for ever I love you and will always miss you. And in my next life and after, I would always want you to be my dad Courtesy: Ify your girl🎀
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Beyond the surface

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  Only if Apostle Femi Lazarus had used another case study, he would have passed his message on peace without misconceptions and misunderstandings from viewers and listeners. Terming the mood swings that come with periods as being demonic is something really demonic itself. Let me make this clearer… (this is a going to be a personal post and I’d love to see personal comments in the comment section as well). Till I turned 19, I never fully understood what period cramps meant or what they really felt like; and growing up with mostly females around me, I used to be the ONLY joyous person when I was on my period… everyone else would always wriggle in pain, in tears and most times could not even function, including my younger sister who has no access to the internet or social media, so are we to call her demonic for being overstimulated due to the pain that comes with period??? Personally, I feel one should not have a say pertaining anything at all if you do not have the experience. Onc...
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FARMER’S BRIDE

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I was so engrossed in my own world that I cared less about life. I didn’t realize this till I threw a very silly question at my roommate, “Is child marriage really practiced in Nigeria?” Not until after I threw that question did it dawn on me that I had withdrawn almost totally from the society.  There was also a movie released some time ago which narrated child marriage and I love that it didn’t only portray the traditional part of it but also the psychological effect this could have on the child, THE FARMER’S BRIDE.  Of recent too, there were videos of old cargos surfacing online, crying in so much anguish over the ban of child marriage and I couldn’t help but say in my defense that the society, put together, could legit make one go psycho. I don’t know… but in my opinion,  child marriage is not only pedophilia, but also rape (I do not stand to be corrected). I don’t care how anyone is going to paint this but even if one is to say these girls consent to sex with these o...
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The Shift

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  Do you remember a post I made sometime ago about financial and biological clock? I stayed clearly in that piece how and why each gender acts the way they do; while the males are more focused on their financial clock, the females on the other hand, are more focused on their biological clock. But come to think of it, it appears now, that women are no longer really interested on whether or not they’re on time on their biological clock. Everyone is now more focused on their financial clock and we all want to be “there” But who’s to be blamed for this change?  Asides the fact that the world is now wired in a certain way, the following are reasons or factors rather, that has prompted women’s motif and focus to change from the biological to financial clock:  l  Gender stereotypes: Right from time, the female gender has always been seen as that which is restricted and “obliged” to care, groom, the kitchen and many other chores which should not be gender based but things an...
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STILL BECOMING

  To the one person that made my 19th year a memorable one, David Adedolapo Obadiah, I love you so much. If I took nothing out of my 19th year, at least I know not to “settle” anymore, and self discovery is not an action or a process. It is a constant cycle/struggle/growth that takes place at certain intervals in life; and this brings me to dropping this bombshell¡ Until January 17th 2027, my blog would be shut down. I wrote for free for over 3 years and now, I have thought to rebrand ’Style De Vie blog’, maybe with a different name, maybe with a different logo, but definitely an entirely different website!😊 But in the meantime, while cooking, I will be closing contracts and landing clients in the writing field. I am still a writer, a full time freelance content writer who is also into social media management (still cooking up more skills for my readers😽).  So, please, if you are looking for any type of writer, or a social media manager, I’m very much available and would lov...
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My mother's core

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“I won’t beat you, just tell me the truth”- coming from the same person who taught me that the truth shall set me free!!!😭 “Love wasn’t girls landing in the hospital after a breakup, love was me loosing my mind in the hospital after loosing my husband”- coming from a millennial mother wanting to hop on a Gen Z TikTok trend😇❤️ “Oya don’t worry, I will cook my food myself”- coming from this woman who came to intrude in the kitchen after telling me to prepare dinner 🤦‍♀️ “Very good!”… and she proceeds to adjust her wrapper and looks away- coming from the mother who’s meant to share in my pain after I fall 🥲  “Every time, phone, phone, phone, that’s why you’re always sick”- coming from someone who’s meant to rush me down to the hospital rather than complaining 😑  “Must you go and see your friend? Can’t your friend come and see you?”- coming from a millennial mum who wants no visitor in her house😒 “You think you’re doing me? You’re doing yourself”- the usual anthem whenever t...
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19 years in 9 minutes

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- [ ] Looking at the past 19 years that I’ve been here on earth, I can say nothing but thank you to God and my lovely parents for the life they gave me… I couldn’t ask for anything better - [ ] Looking at the past 18 years, I’m grateful for the sort of education I was given. It molded me to who I am and who I’m growing to become - [ ] And 17 years ago till now? It’s been a really nice one for me. Having to be a child everyone wanted the best from… school, family church e.t.c. I couldn’t ask for a better immediate environment - [ ] 16 years ago happens to be a year I have no memory about but I doubt it was a year lesser than the rest - [ ] 15 years ago was when my writing journey started, unknown to me. It was the first time I wrote anything meaningful with my pencil (It was my full name) - [ ] And if I’m to look back at 14 years ago, I was giving meaning to life already. Wanting to grow to become a barrister, “standard living” had to be my best song as at the time (the desire for a com...
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