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   1. So I'm actually one of these people who can come out to say "I have a scar". And truly, "I have a scar guys!!!" 😭So there was this girl I used to call my cousin back then. She had this plan to take my lips, not my life (thank God)... because what do you mean to tell me you carried me on your back without tying me to it and then we start spinning. Funny how we enjoyed the feeling so much, we didn't even realize when I was slipping from her back and next thing is "Gbim". I can say I blacked out because I do not remember nothing else except my stitched lips😭💔So whenever you get to meet Ify, look closely at her lips... She's got a scar there😭😂👍 2. My privacy has to come next after my peace and I think this has been with me since I was little 🙃. So there happened to be this very fateful day I locked myself in the guest room. To do what? I really can't tell, I promise😂. But then just for me to finally leave the room, the key won...

In the bid to make any decision at all, there appears to be indecision and wrong decisions. You see, life is a game. We play it till we're out of time. Life wins all the time, sadly. It leads every living thing 1-0 🥲🤌. But while still active and agile in this game called LIFE, we push our way through with decision making, and these decisions are what keep us going in the game; whether going forward (right decisions), being stagnant (indecision), or going backwards (wrong decisions).   We're all humans, and making wrong decisions sometimes shouldn't be something to keep us down for so long. It leads to stagnation, and stagnation is what we should avoid at all costs as humans.   Back to decisions!    We'll be looking at the advantages of wrong decisions over indecision. A close look at this, and we'll see that making wrong decisions actually pays off more than indecision. Yes, wrong decisions => regrets, but then it's up to you to make up for your regret...

Time is running, time is expensive, time is fast and time is slow, time is precious, time is everything, time is life, and life is time. We all have our various definitions of time or how we perceive it. From my perspective, I see time as the expression that says, "You can't have your cake and eat it too." Once in a while, you might be able to eat your cake and still have some left, but when it comes to time, it is that cake you can never eat and have back. The seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, years, or even decades you spend reading this piece can never be regained (although it might fetch you some vital information😉).   Studying time to fully understand it is a complex endeavor. Time existed when God began to exist. The same way it is challenging to fully understand God's beginning, it is equally difficult to comprehend time. Of course, God existed before time, but "before" is an adverb related to time. God and time are very closely related. ...

 I'll try my best not to sound like a Gen Z here😅. Not just true is it but also quite sad that men are loved conditionally. Especially as the world is going now, if as a man you do not provide adequately for the people you're to provide for, lol, it's a big wahala for you. A man could appear to be all loving to his wife, children and even his pet dog but the love reciprocated is often tied to the condition of provision.  Mind you, the provision could come in different forms but we'll be discussing a very few of them here. We all must have, at one point or the other, heard of or seen wives or children being disrespectful to the man of the house due to failed responsibility of provision (be it his fault or not😔🫶).  A man's conditional reciprocated love is usually based on majorly these 3 factors: 1. Provision : No doubt, men are seen and expected to be the breadwinner of their families, extended families included. As a man, you'd have said to yourself or made i...

Okay so laziness happens to be one thing almost everyone must have experienced at one point or the other. While it could be a swing of mood for some, it could be a lifestyle for others. Laziness in my point of view could be seen as a feeling of reluctant or decreased motivation to getting something done.  Whatever it could be, be it tedious or not, once laziness creeps in, it's usually due to a lack of motivation. Mind you, we could mistake laziness for something else as...maybe a brain fog🤷‍♀️ or even tiredness/fatigue😴; and that is why I stated earlier that it would be out of a mood swing. Of course, it's okay to feel lazy sometimes but we shouldn't forget to always take note of ourselves to realize when laziness is turning out to be a habit for us.  Laziness helps with nothing really, well, unless it creeps in at the right time🫵😉 but just to serve as a break from a tedious activity😗.  Growing up in a Nigerian home to be called lazy was or is rather, something I'...

Displeasing Yourself To Please Yourself? Yes, I'll call that self discipline. I, personally, am actually a person that feels later consequence pays more than immediate consequence (good or bad). Now, self discipline, in my own simple terms, would be defined as a decision or step taken by one to displease their self for later pleasure. What do I mean?  A situation where I fight down the whole lot of pressure I get from my friends to smoke and involve myself in all kinds of bad habits will lead me to no other but not getting to have any issues with my lungs, kidney and other organs that could get affected due to taking in toxens (cigarettes and the likes). Another instance could be me figuring out feelings or whatsoever, I may think I have for people at a young teen age and this would leave me with having a right and not wrong insight about love. These and many more could be used as case studies for self discipline.  Though it is not too wrong and at the same time, not alright i...

Ngl, for every single person I've come across, I have at one point or the other felt intimidated and looked at them from the very narrow practical perspective of their lives with which I had seen them from. By this statement, I mean every single person I have met😂 so if you're reading this and you know Ify in person, yes, I have at one point 'eyed' you.  The comparison trap could come in comparing yourself with different things belonging to the people around you. It could come in form of wealth, beauty, talent, accomplishment, intellect, success, e.t.c. I'll be using myself as a major case study in this article because I am a person so guilty of this 😭😂 or should i say entangled in this trap. While being entangled in a comparison trap has its pros and cons, we shouldn't forget to develop ourselves with the positive effects rather than the negative ones as it could lead to different psychological illnesses, some of which are anxiety, eating disorders and many ...