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STILL BECOMING

  To the one person that made my 19th year a memorable one, David Adedolapo Obadiah, I love you so much. If I took nothing out of my 19th year, at least I know not to “settle” anymore, and self discovery is not an action or a process. It is a constant cycle/struggle/growth that takes place at certain intervals in life; and this brings me to dropping this bombshell¡ Until January 17th 2027, my blog would be shut down. I wrote for free for over 3 years and now, I have thought to rebrand ’Style De Vie blog’, maybe with a different name, maybe with a different logo, but definitely an entirely different website!😊 But in the meantime, while cooking, I will be closing contracts and landing clients in the writing field. I am still a writer, a full time freelance content writer who is also into social media management (still cooking up more skills for my readers😽).  So, please, if you are looking for any type of writer, or a social media manager, I’m very much available and would lov...
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Premarital Sex

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  PRE MARITAL SEX✅ FORNICATION❌ Quite a long while ago, I bumped into a post trying to differentiate fornication and pre marital sex😂 It said:  “The Bible said fornication is a sin not premarital sex” He went ahead to break it down for us saying: “Fornication is sleeping around especially with random people. Premarital sex can be with only that one partner you love and cherish. The absence of a signed certificate doesn’t make it a sin”  I couldn’t help laughing while putting this down😂. Now😂, whatever it is this person was trying to denote is nothing but wrong; not only grammatically but also religiously or should I say spiritually. While some people would agree to this, I wouldn’t because this is not only a grammatical wrong take but also a spiritual wrong mindset (and I do not stand to be corrected). Let’s look at it grammatically:  Of all sources that I made my reasearch, the only difference I could tell between fornication and premarital sex is that while the ...
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Very small minds- Ben Carson

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Of the 271 pages of Ben Carson’s The Big Picture novel, pages 197 and 198 got my attention the most (probably because of the stage of my life I’m in at the moment 🌝🤷‍♀️).            “When I encounter individuals who        focus most of their attention on skin color, whether their own or somebody else’s, I am reminded of red ants and black ants. You could invite both groups to the greatest picnic in the world with more sandwich and potato crumbs than they could carry off in a million years. But once they saw each other, they could not care less about what brought them there. They would soon be fighting each other to the death.           Talk about the limitations of small minds. And yet so many human beings, despite having brains far weightier than whole colonies of ants, so often succumb to the same silliness. Still, the fruit of racism is so horrible that calling it “silliness” hardly seems a strong enough co...
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THE HIDDEN EPIDEMIC

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I wouldn't say imagine but think rather of a person (not just a person but people) living with the possibility of experiencing a crisis at the slightest change in the weather or environment; people whose lifespan expectancy IS MEANT to be shorter by two to three decades than a human's lifespan, people whose life is a roller coaster of pains you don't even know exist, people who experience either the veno occlusive crisis, the aplastic crisis, the hyperhermolytic crisis, or the sequestration crisis Or A guy who wouldn't wish to be sexually active for the reason of getting a painful erection. Think also of a lady missing out on fun stuff to do for the fact she could get a dull or throbbing or stabbing, sharp pain that comes out of nowhere in the cause of just living like a human should. They survive basically on drugs.  This set of persons or people rather are the sickle cell patients around us. Think of a lot of things such people would find difficult to get or do; almos...
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SUICIDAL ELIMINATION

I happen to be a person who can't comprehend suicide. That a person has the guts to not only get the thought of it but also act upon the thought overwhelms me and it is why I would always try to make people understand that there is a huge difference between mere sadness and depression... reference to my "you are not depressed, you are just sad" post. I'd say depression is a very severe form of sadness caused by a lot of *REAL LIFE* happenings to a person.  You see, a person thinking of suicide and acting upon it wouldn't or doesn't rather, wish to die. They look for a way to escape the unbearable pain and suffering they go through and in the absence of any, they find death as the ONLY escape route. Deep down, there is always the wish for another alternative but then, studies show that hopelessness is a very strong predictor of suicide.  In a situation where I'm in a race and suddenly experience muscle fatigue for a few seconds, I have two options on my min...
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YOUR PRIME THOUGH, NOT MINE

 YOUR PRIME THOUGH, NOT MINE So what if I'm here on this piece to counter the Greek philosophers who said "Youth is the seed of life and the seed must be sown with care"? 🌝. Yes, you read that right, although, my focus is going to be on the former part of the quote.  I believe one's teen years should be put first before the youth days. You see, many a lot of us 14-19-year-olds should get it stuck in our heads that we are not "enjoying our youth" now 😭🌝❤‍🩹. It's entirely different to gradually lose your value (even as a guy) and people not seeing your value, not to them but to yourself.  You really can't be faster than your shadow and although the world we find ourselves in right now has normalized a lot of abnormalities, we've really got ourselves to blame for whatever mistake we make. Reason being that you've always got a choice, really.  "You really can't be forced to do what you don't want to do. You have a choice to say ...
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UNDERSTANDING EQUALS WHAT?

UNDERSTANDING EQUALS WHAT? Wisdom, knowledge and understanding we all ask for but are we really aware of what we seek? And when we get it, are we aware of what we’ve gotten?... Let’s look at this in a way simpler form. 😉👍   ♧ Knowledge=> The Flour ♧ Understanding=> ? ♧ Wisdom=> The Bread   If knowledge is the flour, wisdom actually has to be the bread, but then, what do we have to call understanding? Let’s look at these instances: You get to meet a person, make friends with this person but still on acquaintance, now that’s knowledge. At this stage, you’re only knowledgeable about this person and know nothing else. You make efforts to knowing this person better than you do at the moment in forms of test, paying close attention to words and actions from this person. You come to the realization of the good and bad sides of this friend of yours and figure out the best way to reserve this friend, putting our human sides aside. This is you trying to make t...
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The net vs the mental health

  The net vs the mental health You see, the mind, actually, is the head of the body, just that it is not physical and thankfully it is not😅👍 The brain is just an organ that helps us decipher this 🫳 from that 🫴but the mind, it is that which will tell you what to do. Just here will we ask ourselves; "Is my mind my conscience?" We were going to talk about our mental health and the net (social media), don't forget 😉 Now, our brain, mind and mental health are all interconnected and it would be incomplete treating this topic without them all. Let's start off with understanding the connection between these 3. As earlier stated, the brain is just an organ that helps we humans decipher this 🫳 from that 🫴. It is this human intelligence that makes humans superior to animals- note that🙂👍 The mind is the not-so-physical structure of the brain embedded in we humans. By not-so-physical, I mean your mind is that whatever 😂 that tells you what to do even after your brain has...
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STILL BECOMING

  To the one person that made my 19th year a memorable one, David Adedolapo Obadiah, I love you so much. If I took nothing out of my 19th year, at least I know not to “settle” anymore, and self discovery is not an action or a process. It is a constant cycle/struggle/growth that takes place at certain intervals in life; and this brings me to dropping this bombshell¡ Until January 17th 2027, my blog would be shut down. I wrote for free for over 3 years and now, I have thought to rebrand ’Style De Vie blog’, maybe with a different name, maybe with a different logo, but definitely an entirely different website!😊 But in the meantime, while cooking, I will be closing contracts and landing clients in the writing field. I am still a writer, a full time freelance content writer who is also into social media management (still cooking up more skills for my readers😽).  So, please, if you are looking for any type of writer, or a social media manager, I’m very much available and would lov...
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My mother's core

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“I won’t beat you, just tell me the truth”- coming from the same person who taught me that the truth shall set me free!!!😭 “Love wasn’t girls landing in the hospital after a breakup, love was me loosing my mind in the hospital after loosing my husband”- coming from a millennial mother wanting to hop on a Gen Z TikTok trend😇❤️ “Oya don’t worry, I will cook my food myself”- coming from this woman who came to intrude in the kitchen after telling me to prepare dinner 🤦‍♀️ “Very good!”… and she proceeds to adjust her wrapper and looks away- coming from the mother who’s meant to share in my pain after I fall 🥲  “Every time, phone, phone, phone, that’s why you’re always sick”- coming from someone who’s meant to rush me down to the hospital rather than complaining 😑  “Must you go and see your friend? Can’t your friend come and see you?”- coming from a millennial mum who wants no visitor in her house😒 “You think you’re doing me? You’re doing yourself”- the usual anthem whenever t...
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WHEN LIFE GOES THE OTHER WAY ROUND.

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  #rantchallenge Looking at things this way: The citizens of Nigeria would not be this mad if things went the other way round; ● If fuel didn’t skyrocket from #450 to #900. ● If the highest currency in the country could still feed a family for a day or two. ● If common sachet water did not have to cost #50 for each. ● If the reason for removing fuel subsidy was maintained (to invest more in the educational and health sector) but mind you, school fees and hospital bills keep on leaving citizens in a state of dilemma.  ● If the price of accommodation is not pushing people to rather stay out in the slums because the houses are not even worth the price anymore!!! ● If a bare minimum way of living (traveling by air, buying yourself a crate of eggs, subscribing a monthly plan e.t.c.) is considered luxury. ● If the cost of living in the country is not threatening to kill the living. ● If a #10,000 monthly allowance could still sustain a student. ● If education, and not connection rem...
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